What are your needs? For years I have tried to figure it out, and I have come to one conclusion, there are only 6 human needs in this world.
Everyone finds the first 4 in all people, they are called needs of the personality, last 2 are needs of the spirit.
We all have same needs but what of the 6 drives us, that tilts you in a direction and changes your destination or destiny.
1. Certainty (avoidance, to give up or go all in, to smoke or not smoke to be comfortable or drink, some people workout, some of us find certainty in our relationships…etc...)
2. Uncertainty (we need surprise, but no one wants any surprise, they only want surprises they want, because surprises we do not want are called PROBLEMS! That is the problem, we need to accept unexpected and sometimes unfortunate surprises and roll with them. Uncertainty is what creates who we are)
3. Critical Significance – to feel special, unique, wanted, but the fastest way to feel significant is via violence because you become significant immediately, you get a response. Each of us have a different map some good or some bad, all methods to feeling significant.
4. Connection/Love – most want it but people settle for connection because love is too scary. You will get hurt again no doubt at some point, but it is true we need it love not just a connection. Look for intimacy, friendship, prayer, walking in nature, get a dog, but fine a connection and something you love, or at the very least, love to do.
5. Contribute beyond ourselves (the secret to living is giving; it is not about me it is about we). You can feel the difference when you have a calling.
6. Emotion (this one is up to you)
Explore YOUR web, the web in your head, the needs, beliefs, emotions that are controlling you, for 2 reasons…. So you have more to give, but so you can appreciate what drives you and other people.
